That conversation you keep putting off


Hi Reader,

You're in the car on the way home.

And you're replaying the moment you didn't say anything. Again.

Maybe it's the third time this month the priorities shifted last minute and you had to redo three hours of work nobody noticed. Maybe you've been operating half-blind because your exec hasn't looped you in properly. Maybe someone said something in a meeting and you thought "someone needs to action that" and then nobody did.

You know something needs to be said. You just can't figure out how to say it without it sounding like a complaint.

That's what I wrote about this week.

How to decide whether something's even worth raising, and then how to say it in a way that lands as useful rather than difficult.

I wanted to share this, because it's clear the people who are genuinely trusted and promoted aren't the ones who never push back, they're the ones who do it well.

So, if you're sitting on something right now, the full article is probably worth five minutes of your time.

You can see the article here.

And if you want to talk through a specific situation, book a free call me, I'd be happy to help you think it through ☕

Trinity

Trinity James is a Career Coach, founder of Views Professional Development and the APAC Lead for EA How To — a professional development membership for Executive Assistants across the globe.

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